I’m Afraid of White Women

Again, another white woman was afraid of a Black person. Her fear almost got a 14-year-old boy killed. The child had come to her house looking for help, directions to his high school, only to be met by her fear, a force more powerful than her desire to help. This white woman expressed her fear, abruptly and loudly accusing him of an attempted break-in, and then stood by as her white husband shot at the child, running for his life out of her yard.

I have heard this American story a thousand times, white women’s fears and the death and destruction it has caused Black and brown people. The history of the United States is teeming with stories of white women’s fears sparking and justifying Black men’s lynchings, Black men’s murders, Black neighborhood’s massacres. White women’s fictional stories of being raped or touched or even looked at by a Black man have caused some of the United States’ most horrific acts of racial terrorism.

We all know, or should know, of the 14-year-old Black child, Emmett Till who was brutally murdered because of the fear of a white woman, Carolyn Bryant Donham, who recently, just before she died, admitted that she lied. Or Sarah Page, whose fear, in 1921, sparked the most horrific race massacre in Tulsa, OK when white rioters destroyed “Black Wall Street,” killing more than 300 Black people. White women’s fears and false accusations have been a catalyst to the justification of terrorism and murder of Black people in this country for over four hundred years and continues to this day.

White women: Is death a deserved consequence for our fears? Is that the price Black and brown people must pay for our ill-conceived ideas about who is and is not safe?

The time is now for white women to look deep into our history as “white” women and cleanse our souls of the irrational fears that live deep within us. What will it take for white women to come to grips with this history and the inevitable truth that there is blood on our hands? Though we didn’t hold the rope or wear the robe, we are responsible for much of the racial violence, hatred, and death in this country.

We must begin to think deeply and understand this: the fear white women have of Black and brown people has served a purpose both deliberate and designed with our own oppression in mind. White women’s fears are used to justify powerful white men to act in our “honor” and as protectors of our “purity” in horrific acts of racial violence and injustice on Black and brown people. Our fear and complicity is eroding at our humanity.

While we’ve been busy buying into propaganda that we need to be protected and saved from the menacing Black male rapist and thug, we’ve missed the truth about white male mythmakers or the reality of who Black men really are.

This horrific history of white men stoking fear in white women, is rooted in white supremacy, among other things a tool to keep us in their beds. It has blinded us from learning from and connecting with Black women who have long modeled how strong, we as women, can be. We’ve turned a blind eye as Black women have fought off our white men’s pattern of terrorizing, raping, and brutalizing them. We’ve completely missed seeing the possibilities of who we could be together. We believe we are less than, weaker than, and powerless under white men. White women, unaware of the oppressive tactics used against us then wrongfully directed our power on Black men, women, and children via white male power. In search of what? What has this twisted privilege and power lever yielded us? 

Imagine the liberation possible by rejecting this oppressive state and shedding unfounded fears. The millions of Black and brown men, women, and children who have shared this country have paid a much deeper price in their ongoing pursuit of freedom than we have for our “safety.” Can we not trade out unfounded fears for educated truths in order to join in the pursuit of freedom, justice, and safety for all?

White women need to wake the hell up. This power we think we have is a tool of our ongoing oppression. The fear blinds us to the reality that we’re being used and tricked into seeing bravery where there is cowardliness, loyalty where there is selfishness, safety where there is fear mongering. I ask white women to join me in educating ourselves about the history of white supremacy in this country and how it is inextricably linked to our own oppression. It starts with asking ourselves this one question: Why do I fear Black people, and Black men specifically. 

I would love to ask the white woman who called the police on my 11-year-old Black son, who was sitting on the roof of his garage after school one day, “Why were you afraid that a “man” was breaking into my house? How did you look at a Black child and see a man? Why did you look at a Black child and become fearful? Why?”

My fear, anger, and demands are targeted to white women because I am one. I am oppressed the same way you are. As I increasingly see fear as an evil tool to distract me from the truth, and from my own humanity, I am longing for you to join me in refusing to comply. As a mother of Black sons, I need white women to honestly confront internalized fears of Black people, Black men, and especially Black boys. The idea of you, white women, seeing my son walking towards you and becoming fearful, moving to the other side of the street, locking your doors, calling the police, or siccing your white man on him terrifies me. The idea of you, white women,  telling your daughters to fear my son breaks my heart. I’m afraid of white women who have no idea why they fear Black people, yet know exactly the power it yields. I am afraid of you white women. I am afraid you will kill my Black son.

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